You feel overwhelmed and stressed. You get lost in the anxious thoughts rushing through your mind. You worry about things that haven’t happened…yet. You doubt yourself, wonder how you can get everything done that you need to do, and are afraid of what other people would think if they knew your thoughts, your beliefs, or your real desires. Sometimes you think, “If they really knew who I am, they would reject me, and I would be alone.”
Because of this, you feel like you are an actor, showing a different face to different people because you have to be what they expect. You don’t want to push anyone away. The fear that you may not be able to meet everyone’s expectations causes you panic. You don’t want to disappoint anyone.
Meanwhile, none of the many roles you fill or labels given to you quite fit you. They also do not satisfy you. You are tired of and hurt by some of the labels you have been given: black sheep, perfectionist, highly sensitive person, free thinker, gifted, rebel, idealist, unconventional, people-pleaser, entrepreneur, counter-cultural, chameleon, millennial, queer, over-thinker, multipotentialite, empath, codependent, etc. You could go on with all the ways you have been told that you are “different” or “wrong”.
Although you are always afraid you’ll make a mistake, you are the responsible, helpful, empathic friend that other people need. You constantly re-hash conversations or question the choices you make, looking for how you could have done better. You have a strong drive to improve yourself and be a better person.
You’d like to feel confident, capable of handling stress in a peaceful way, and able to trust yourself and your own decisions. You desire to be a kind person, loving partner, gentle parent, and genuine friend while having your own identity. You crave to be seen and accepted as you are, the same way you strive to accept others. Most importantly, you are ready to examine your struggles to become the person you envision yourself being in the future.
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